It’s an unfortunate truth that bullies don’t grow out of it by the time they leave grade school. Far too often, adults find themselves miserable in their workplace, wondering why they hate walking into the office every day. It’s possible that you’re dealing with a bully of a boss. Here’s how to know for sure.
Hindering Your Success
Are you finding it hard to advance in your career even though you put in a ton of work every week, show up on time, never take a day off and feel that the quality of your work is above and beyond what’s expected? Bully bosses will often try to hinder an employee’s success no matter how well they’re actually performing.
There are all sorts of ways that your boss may try to intimidate you. He could say he’s going to fire you if you don’t live up to his expectations (which may be above and beyond what’s actually expected of you). He may have threatening body language or even go so far as to say he’s going to do something to physically or emotionally harm you or your family. Even something as simple as regularly intruding on your space can be considered intimidation.
If you’re being left out of work meetings, get-togethers, birthday celebrations, office parties and other professional or social work gatherings, this could be a way to isolate you. When you’re not in the loop, it’s possible that management and the other employees are making big decisions without considering your input. However, if you think this is an oversight, you may want to learn about proper communication in the workplace at Enplug.com.
Lack of Boundaries
Your boss may be crossing the line by intruding on your privacy. If you feel that your boss is watching you too carefully, spying on you or stalking you, you should do something about it right away before it escalates. You may also notice that your desk or belongings are being tampered with, which could mean that your boss is looking through your stuff when you’re out for the day or away from your desk. Often, the purpose of this is to find something to use against you.
Questioning Your Abilities
A bully boss will often try to knock you down by regularly questioning your abilities to do your job well or your commitment to your work. He may ignore, reject or make fun of your thoughts, opinions and ideas. This behavior may happen when it’s just the two of you, but it could also happen when other people are around. Another tactic that your boss may use is taking credit for work that you’ve done. Furthermore, they may make you feel that if you don’t work extra hours or over the weekend, your job could be in jeopardy.
If your boss is verbally abusing you, that’s a big sign that they’re using bullying tactics. You may find that you’re being humiliated, criticized or insulted by your boss in front of other managers or your co-workers. If you’re being yelled at or sworn at on a regular basic, either in public or when alone with your boss, you’re being verbally abused.
It’s common for people to not realize they’re being bullied by their boss. Your boss may not even realize how their actions are affecting their employees. Knowing the signs of bullying in the workplace is the first step to calmly and responsibly fixing the problem, whether that means reporting it to HR, sitting down for a conversation with your boss or leaving your job altogether.